Showing posts with label dan savage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label dan savage. Show all posts

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

31 Flavors

So, this month of sex has been pretty vanilla, I think. Before we get off the topic, I wanted to share some words of wisdom: Dan Savage.

No, this is not a cute nickname; this is a very successful sex and/or relationship advice columnist/podcaster/has-a-new-show-on-MTV-called-Savage-U. (Don't worry about that sentence.) Dan is very savvy and sassy, but what really sets him apart from your dime-a-dozen Ask-Amys (Amies?) is his support for what, in this country certainly, are perceived as non-traditional relationships. Polyamory, non-missionary sex (sometimes with people you're not in love with!), kinks and non-heterosexual relationships, but also sacrificing for a relation that is worth it (what he calls, "the price of admission"), baggage and forgiveness.

Dan is hilarious, so he's great to read/listen to/watch (I assume, the show hasn't aired yet) just for kicks, but he's also really on point. One of the most poignent things about Dan's thoughts is that a relationship is a relationship, whoever's involved, whatever they're into. As long as all parties are aware and on board with the terms of their relationship (monogamous, open, age-play-incorporating), and everyone is getting what they want, IT'S ALL GOOD.

He also has coined one of my favorite phrases: DTMFA, or Dump The Mother Fucker Already.

Check it out, but not if you're scared of the gays, because then you'll probably freak out.
http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLove?oid=8742121